Knowing exactly what to say during a sex chat is challenging. If you’re new to it, you might be
nervous that you’ll say the wrong thing. If you’ve done a lot of sex chatting, you might feel like
you always say the same thing. So, below, we’ll talk about some ways to begin a sex chat
conversation to keep things hot and heavy.
Before you get started chatting, ask the other person if they want to and whether or not it’s a
good time for them. This courtesy can prevent a lot of unintentionally embarrassing moments
at work or with family. It can also help you avoid an awkward rejection. Say something like,
“I’ve been thinking a lot about {insert fantasy here}. Care to hear more?” Once that is taken
care of, you’re ready to have some fun.
Context is everything, and to have a hot sex chat, you’re going to want to go into all the dirty
details. Telling your partner that you want to do something in particular with them is a good
start, but then you should delve a bit deeper into your sexual psyche. Why is that specific thing
so hot to you? Do you like the way she looks when she does it? Do you feel like you’re getting
into mischief when you’re doing it? Think of those five questions that every journalist answers:
who, what, where, when, and why. Answering them will give her a clear picture of what you
have in mind, and with any luck, she’ll be all the more tuned into your sex chat.
There’s a reason we don’t normally eat dessert before dinner, even when we have the option,
and the reason is that anticipation is half the fun. If you’ve found someone interested in having
a sex chat, don’t spoil it by sending the dick pic you’re most proud of immediately. If you do
that, you’ll be spending the whole conversation wondering how to top it, and so will she. Start
slow, and focus on flirting. And then continue to go slow throughout. If she’s begging you to
quicken your pace, you’ll know that you went the right speed to get her worked up.
No one wants to be involved in a fake fantasy. It’s just not as fun. Talk about whatever gets you
going, and your energy in the sex chat will reflect that. Similarly, encourage your partner to do
the same. You’ll both be able to notice if you’re only participating for the sake of the other, so
it’s crucial to find some common sexual ground.
The more you can make this a tailored fantasy between you and your sex chat partner, the
better. Generic ideas of threesomes, sex on the beach, or domination are fine jumping-off
points, but you’re going to want something with a little more substance to ensure your chat
stays interesting. If you could have this exact conversation with someone else, then it’s going to
feel a little trite. Talk about why you want to share this fantasy, and specifically why you want
to share it with her. Sex chat should be very revealing, and that pertains to more than just
what’s under your clothes.
